Too Much of a Good Thing

Surprise surprise! I'm actually home on a weekday evening! :O haha, that's my mom's reaction anyway. haven't exactly been the good stay at home boy for the past few days. Or as my mom likes to put it, " I have no son..."
Sigh. haha, i know she's just kidding, though i did feel a little bad, so i shall try my best to be at home and spend quality time with the family for this week :)

I came home from Malacca on Sunday, due to NS and rehearsal, but the rest of the family stayed on for one more night. And when they did return on Monday night... I wasn't home >.< Monday was AngelMortal Dinner, at least i called it that, but can't really be considered such, since the only angelmortal pairing was ZT and Sam. It gave me a major headache organising it tho, started all nice-like with everyone able to go, and turned out with so many cancellations. It ended up a lot like the previous one though, the Glass House Fish and Co. one, where only Sam and Chiaps came rep-ping the angels, and 4 guys, ZT, Marcus, Gene and I repping the mortals. This time, the only difference was Eugene swapped out for Varun, he was bored, wanted to tag along. I kinda felt i let down those who went, since ZT was 'sian' and varun didn't really mesh. i was afraid the girls wouldn't enjoy themselves too, Marcus seemed quite alright, haha. But it was a chance to meet Sam and Chiaps i guess, though i realised i didn't talk that much to them, gotta work on that...

So with a little heavy heart, i went home mulling over what could be done to salvage the situation, or at least, lessons to learn so that i won't make such mistakes again. Thought about it long and hard, but didn't really have any answer to it. The other worry, of course, was that we were supposed to meet up the next day too, and i didn't want it to be a repeat of Monday night. what to do? what to do?

Surprisingly, a change of circumstance was what i needed to break out of the 'sian'-spell. Tuesday night (sorry MumDad for going out again >.<) was looking to be like the previous night, and i was actually quite uninspired the whole day, until going back time, when i got a call from Hui Min, to join the girls at Minds Cafe along Clarke Quay to play games and chill with them. Woo-hoo! (small teeny weeny part of the reason is because it was girls, but the bigger part was that it was a change of grouping, and! i was not the organiser anymore!) So rushed home and out again, and down to Clarke Quay where i was the first to join them, and played an awesome-shizz game called "Intrigue" but i think it was better known to us as the Factory Game.

Factory Game:
Game about betrayal, backstabbing, bluffing and bribery (note the alliteration!)
5 players
each owning 8 workers, competing to earn money in other people's factories

The game was supposed to be open table bribery, with offers and counter offers for other players to take our workers in, but we spun it into our own version! where more trechery and manipulation could be done, by organising it into a silent auction. sure it meant that during offers, those not involved were more bored, but it definitely heightened the risk of playing the game, and we enjoyed it very much!

So one of my new projects this year will be to remake that game (so we don't have to pay $3.50 an hour to play >.<) for us to play and hopefully finish the game this time!

The rest of the guys (ZT, Varun, Marcus) joined us later, but they didn't want to join the girls to play, and that was when i noticed it. It was an expectation to be entertained, but when they were not, they immediately decended into a 'sian'-ness they felt the night before. not that i want to talk badly about them, it's just that, it was tough organising something for them, if they were not open to just talk freely and have fun no matter what. I had fun with the girls, because it was loud and crazy, but also because we were open to each others ideas, suggestions and antics! so that increased the fun-ditude (fun + altitude = funditude!) of last night.

Another thing i realised, it could be due to the fact that i always meet the same people, it could be a case of 'too much of a good thing', without having enough time apart to grow and develop, when we meet, it can get boring to hear the same stories, while not having any common ground to chat about (like school and schoolmates). Abscence makes the heart grow fonder, if we are just gonna meet to chat, then we need to have more time on our own.

The other solution (IMO is better) is to go and do stuff together, varun sms-ed me later that night, and said 'if tonight was sian, its not your fault, we just didn't have anything to do" and that can easily be rectified if we go and do something! Ubin Cycling Trip was awesome fun, every beach outing was good since we do lots of crazy things, and it just takes a little effort to orgainise an event people will put thier attention to, to create shared experiences that pull us closer together.

I shall go back to thinking about activities like that. BBQs, Beach stayovers, weekend trips to malaysia, 2 star kayaking, expeditions, game nights, pot luck. just a few minutes and i'm brimming with ideas! i feel the excitement bubbling once again!

I'm glad i had these 2 days to contrast and learn from, its almost too coincidental! almost like i was meant to learn this lesson(yes yes, i've been talking to people about religion again >.<) But whatever the case, i'm glad i learnt it, i might take a break from organising events for now, but you can bet i'll be at it again soon! first gotta clear some things like R&Gad performance and maybe even my Driving License. Still! there are many years more of friendship! Many more opportunities to plan things :)

Tomorrow i start a new chapter of NS. Just finished my Ammo Tech Course today! will tell you more about GSAB once i find out where i'm posted to tmr!